Happy New Year’s Eve!
For many the new year represents hope. An opportunity to finally accomplish all of those things that have yet to be completed. No where is this more true than in the health and wellness industry. Facebook and other social media platforms are already full of “new year, new you challenges” that are supposedly going to help you lose weight, feel great, and step into the body you have been dreaming of but have yet to achieve.
But 2015 is the year!!!
Or is it?
While you are sitting down writing out your new years resolutions and/or signing up at your local corporate gym or ‘Crossfit box’ I would invite you to ask yourself why the “old you” has yet to accomplish the health goal(s) you have set for your Self.
If you participated in a “challenge” last year, and weren’t as successful (especially long term) as you would have liked to of been, then maybe it’s not a “challenge” that you need. Maybe the solution to getting healthy and staying healthy isn’t about “working out” (or dieting).
At some point , most folks end up playing victim to this outdated belief, which was created by marketers, that getting in shape and staying in shape takes hard work. This idea is even built into calling the practice of getting physically fit; “WORKING OUT”. Sounds terrible. Even Pavel Tsatouline, Russian kettlebell master and all around badass, says, “in the Russian language there is no word for ‘workout’… the implied meaning of a workout means let me just go and see how much I can reduce myself to a pile of shivering J-ello as quickly as possible.”
Again, that sounds terrible.
Health does not come from getting up and beating the shit out of your body everyday. A healthy body is derived from understanding what your body needs, then making it a daily priority to provide your body with said need. It is understanding that those needs change on a daily basis. This requires you to have a relationship with food, thought, sleep, movement, and spirit. (Yup, I said spirit too. You don’t really think you are just a body do you?)
The hardest truth for almost everyone that I have ever worked with to grasp is that being healthy does not require hard work at all, it only requires conviction: a firmly held belief. When you are convicted to getting healthy or to a way of living it is no longer a hassle or hard work, it’s a lifestyle.
Make no mistake about it, there will definitely be some effort involved in getting healthy. BUT if you are really ready to dive down the rabbit hole of health, the intense effort you will have to produce IS NOT going to come from physically destroying yourself. No, the toughest weight you are going to have to lift, will be figuring out what you really want and why. The toughest rep you are going to pull is owning your shit.
For over a dozen years, I have watched some of my clients accomplish their goals and some of them fall short. This inconsistency could have been enough to make me pull my hair out. (Luckily, I don’t grow much hair these days.) With each client’s result, optimal or sub-obptimal, I am always left asking myself, What did I do well? What could I have done better?
Then a few years ago it occurred to me it wasn’t about a right or wrong course of action or flaw in my program design. The difference between the client who accomplished their goal(s) and the one who didn’t was due to a state of mind. EVERY individual I have ever worked with that achieved what they set out for (and more) had an unwavering belief that they would. They were done with their “old self”. They had enough of the perpetual bullshit and falling short cycles. Their dream was finally BIGGER than their crisis. After years of frustration, observation, and consideration I have arrived at a definite conclusion; to come into being the greatest version of your Self one must be ready.
"When you have a BIG enough dream, you don't needs a crisis." ~Jerry Wesch
Being ready is not about having a membership to one of the trendy new gyms or ‘boxes’ that are popping up around you, owning stylish gym clothes, or the latest fad in foot apparel. Ready is not an instantaneous emotional decision to commit to a “challenge” because your piers decided they were all going to do it. Being ready does not come from deciding to prove some one else wrong or right. Ready is not powered by anger, fear, or ego. Ready is not going out and beating yourself into ‘a pile of shivering J-ello‘.
Ready is when you are no longer OK with the individual who is staring back at you in the mirror.
Ready is the realization that you love yourself so fucking much you absolutely refuse to continue living life in such a way that causes unwanted and unneeded pain and suffering.
Ready comes when you decide to flip over that iceberg and start revealing the true Self you’ve been hiding, regardless of what repercussions may come.
Ready is when you realize this relationship, job, or body no longer fits you so you kindly remove yourself (or shall I say, your Self).
Ready is you when realize there are no safety nets and you jump anyway.
Your coach, teacher, Sifu, mentor, instructor, best friend, spouse, parent, or anyone else cannot decide when you are ready. Only you can.
The reality is some of you reading this are not ready. That is OK.
I know I’ve forced ‘ready’ when I wasn’t, many times. I have watched clients’ motivation fade because they started working with me when they weren’t ready, when their goals weren’t their own, and when their crisis was still bigger and more important than their dream. As much as I tried to inspire them or adjust their program so that it better fit their lives, it didn’t matter because they were not in a state of readiness.
But when you are ready, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY READY… health & fitness will no longer be an enslaving act of self-torture. Instead getting healthy will become a catalyst that will empower you to become your greatest Self. The Self you know deep down inside you are capable of being.
It’s in there.
Are you ready to let it out?
May 2015 be the year you start living YOUR life.
Much Love, Billy